The Russell-P Project:

Russell-P's Date Night Tuesday...

So last night I had a date, no not with my cat this time with a real live breathing woman. What a noble concept I know. Either way I had a date last night and this might be a bit weird because I have a feeling she might just be reading this. If she is... The date was awful and horrible!! I could not believe I sat there at the table with you for an hour and a half and ate sushi and Crazy Monkey Rolls... Just kidding :-) The date actually went really well. She is a super rad chick with a super rad personality. On a side note I want to rename my band to Super Rad.

We ended up going to the really cool sushi joint where every car in the parking lot was either a Mercedes, BMW or a Rolls Royce. Yeah, my car fitted in really well there let me tell you. When I went to get my car from valet it was parked between a Mercedes and a Bentley. How is that for knocking you down a peg and slamming you in your place? Either way, the place was really cool and we had a good time. I think we had a good time? I had a good time, I wonder if she had a good time? Holy crap, what if she didn't have a good time?

A few things I did learn from my dinner last night was that Lone Star Rolls, while patriotic and American sounding are extremely Hispanic in origin with all the jalapeños they put in them. I also learned that I do not really have a clue when it comes to ordering sushi. I just kind of look at the menu and order the rolls with the cool names. On a side note I want to be the guy who comes up with the names for these things. I mean some of them are wicked cool like the Spicy Monkey Roll, the Tiny Asian Hand Roll and the I Might Get Some Tonight Roll with Cream Cheese. Ok I made up those last two rolls.

Either way all and all it was a good time and it was nice to have a night off from the band where I could go out and actually enjoy my self out side of a bar for once.

What the hell is up with that...

So I just found out one of my good friends is getting married, what the hell is up with that? It seems like everyone I know is getting married all of a sudden. Did I miss some memo that went out that said everyone should be getting married all of a sudden? Not that I am a relationship expert in fact I would say I am the one person you don't want to ask for relationship advice but to me it seems like people get married way to young. This girl is not out of college yet but her and her boyfriend just got engaged. To me it seems like you would want to wait until after you get out of school and get your self established before you go off and get married.

Like I said though I am a really bad person to listen to for relationship advice. I mean I have only been in two serious relationships and with both of them I wanted to marry the girl I was with. Now that I look back at it the first relationship I realize that we were way too young. We started dating when we were both 18 and dated all the way through college and then broke up a year after we got out of school. We dated from when we were 18 till about 24, now that's a long time to date someone, but I realize I was way to young at that time to get married. Obviously she thought so also seeing how she dumped me. ;-) I think maybe if we would have meet at 24 we would have stuck together but we are both way better off now that we did not get married.

With my second serious relationship we dated for about a year and I knew after about 2 or 3 months that this was a girl I could live with for the rest of my life. Don't know why I feel for her as quick as I did. I suppose some times you just find that person and fall for them. I suppose though in the end she thought we were just not right for each other.

It seems like to many people rush into marriage though. I mean out of all my friends I have 4 of them have gotten married and all of them are now divorced. That's kind of a scary thought. Are marriages really not what they used to be? I know that when you get married it is hard and you have to work for it. Nothing in life is every easy and that includes relationships and marriage. I mean I know you will always have your ups and downs and will always have those times where you not sure you are with the right person I know you just have to stick it out and work through things. What do you guys think, do you think marriage is as sacred as it used to be?

On a side note I hear people are not happy with the Sidekick III and trading them back in for their Sidekick II. Guess what I already have the Sidekick II so HA. Looks like I am the bomb now. ;-)

I have had a few people ask me to start putting some music I listen to on here so here you go. This is one of my favorite bands Hellogoodbye- Here (In Your Arms). I like the line "I like where you sleep; when you sleep next to me". Enjoy...

Or are you going to be, my new girlfriend…

That’s right folks Russell-P has a new girlfriend and I am free to say it on here because I know she does not get on here to read this. In fact I have been seeing this girl for the last 2 months today; it’s our 2 month anniversary, yes I know how sweet and mushy. Either way I am completely happy with this girl, she is the best!!! I never thought I would be able to bond to a girl this quick but it’s crazy because it happened.

The feelings I have for her are feelings that I have not had in a long time. We have spent almost every night together and I absolutely love sleeping next to her. In makes me smile so big when I wake up in the morning and she is right beside me in my bed. I love spoiling her and getting her everything she ever wants or needs, although that is a trait about me that I love. I really do enjoy spoiling people and making them feel special. Even my friends like her and that is something that is REALLY important to me.

Either way I am super happy with this girl. The affection is there, she loves to give me kisses, and the friendship is there. I know that she has unconditional love for me even though she does not say it and I know that she would do anything for me. So you guys want to know who she is and where I meet her at. Well I meet her at Pet Smart and her name is Willy T. She is my little kitten and today is our two month anniversary together. I love you baby!!

The new Russell-P...

So I have been thinking about a lot of stuff lately and I have decided it is time to make a change. For those who knew me back in the day I used to be a very take charge kind of guy. I was the guy who would always be the leader of whatever it was I was doing. After I graduated college and started my job I started to get to where I was becoming increasingly more and more passive. I would just tend to sit in the back and just let other people run the show and whatever happened to me was because of their decisions. Well that's not the way it is going to be anymore.

I have decided to turn me back to the old me. I am no longer going to wait around and let people decide how my life is going to unfold. I am no longer going to sit on the sidelines and watch my life pass by. I am going to take action and get in the game.

In my last relationship I became super passive. Not because my ex was controlling or bossy because she really wasn't, it was just a change that I had made and I did not know how to fix. Well now I know how and I am going to fix it. I am going to become the one in charge and take action with things. I am going to be the one who makes all the final decisions and who is going to take my life and make it a great thing.

I know I am a great guy with much to offer people and I know that one day I am going to make some lady very happy. Especially now that I am getting back to where I should be and taking charge. For all those people who decided to leave me and take a step back and out of my life, well I feel really bad for you because I am now becoming exactly what you always wanted me to be and you had your chance to be with me and you let it go.

I know that in my life I am going to achieve great things and live a wonderful life. I also know that when I have a wife and a family I am going to be the strong Christian leader of that family and take charge and care of them and make sure they have the best life possible. These are things that I know I am going to do. I know now that I am about to achieve some great things in my life and my life is about to change for the better. For all those who stuck by my side and are still with me, get ready for one hell of a ride because I do not forget those people who have helped me out in the past and I plan on taking you all with me to the top. And for those people who made the decision that they did not want me in their life any more or did not want to be with me, well I feel bad for you because you just lost one hell of a guy out of your life. There are not a lot of guys in this world who treat women like I do and who give people the respect I do. One day you will realize what it is that you have thrown away, and you will regret it.

Ask Russell-P...

So I have been getting a lot of emails from people who are always asking me for advice on relationships, don't know why they think I can give them good advice but oh well I will do my best. So here it is folks, the first installment of "Ask Russell-P". This letter I like to call, "Dude, where's my date"?

I have been with my boyfriend for almost five months. About a week ago, I went to the beach with him for a whole week so I could get to know his family. We had a really great time.

But the Friday we got home, he changed. I went out with my parents that night and got back home about 9 p.m. I called him to see what he was up to (because he had asked me to). But when I called, his mom said he never made it back from taking me home! I was scared to death, thinking that he had gotten into an accident on the way home. So I called one of his friends, and he went to look for him. His friend found him shortly at another friend's place just down the road.

This week I haven't talked to him at all. I have tried to get hold of him, but he won't call back or anything. And I'm not sure what to do anymore. So if you can help me out on what to do. . . .

Brittany

Brittany, oh my dear sweet Brittany, I hate to be the one to say this but: You, my dear, have been dumped. That's right, as sad as it is this fellow of yours, hummmm yeah, I don't think he is coming back. I hate to tell you but this is actually a common thing for guys to do.

I will let you girls in on a little man secret, don't get pissed at me guys for giving away our secretes but us guys like to do this because most of us are kind of wussy and will do pretty much anything to avoid being yelled at. (See also: Why men lie.) That's right, it's just way easier for us to do this then it is for us to actually break up with you.

Now ladies, before you go getting all worked up and yelling at your computer monitor and saying, "Russell-P, you seem like such a nice guy how could you have done this to someone". Well guess what, I never have done this before but I know guys who have. So don't be getting all pissed at me, this is just what most guys do. In fact according to my highly unscientific research, men are approximately 80 times more likely to employ this rather unnerving exit strategy.

A buddy of mine John, a former Marine, has also done the date 'n' ditch. "I was seeing this hot psychopath who got insanely clingy after a few 'dates,'" he laughed. "But instead of dealing with it, I got orders to go overseas for an undefined length of time. I never called and told her I was leaving; I just disappeared. When I got back, months later, my answering machine had a million psychotic messages on it." Ouchie!

You see as sad as this is Brittany it happens, in fact it happens a lot and more then likely it will happen to you again. I think you have to accept the fact that he's history. Quit calling him and move on. And even if you lose your temper, hang on to your self-respect.

Well I hope this helped you out Brittany and I hope this guy ends up regretting what he lost. So if any of my other readers out there need any help with dating issues or your love life feel free to send me an email and ask me. I will make sure I publish it on here for all to read while using your real name. ;-) So what is some of your guys advice for Brittany, has this ever happened to any of you or have you ever done this to someone before?